my father wound: I will earn his love by winning his approval. my mother wound: I will earn her love by saving and healing her. my family wound: I will earn their love by leading them out of the darkness.
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Yes, Rick, I know the misery of this quest well, and the cold empty place to which it leads. Well spoken.
Thanks, Seth. I must say that seeing such a succinct statement of so much of what’s been driving me, at my core, for most of my life feels a bit like the emotional/psychological equivalent of getting hit in the chest with a sledgehammer. There is an undeniable ground truth in what I’ve written above that stops me right in my tracks every time I read it. I feel like I’ve been digging through roots and layers for years and now I’ve finally hit bedrock. It is both enlightening and intimidating, hopeful and horrifying, to see so much of what I’ve been doing for so long summed up in so few words.
I think I will try this.