Iron Man Family Outing still going strong at Amazon

I hadn’t checked the Amazon rankings for my first book, Iron Man Family Outing, in about six months and was pleasantly surprised this morning to discover that it’s still doing very well in terms of its placement on the various lists that track the popularity of poetry books at Amazon based on average reader reviews. Here are a few examples:

Again, these rankings are based on average reader reviews, not sales, but for a book with no publisher and no marketing that sat in my closet for fifteen years and hasn’t seen the inside of a bookstore in over twenty, it has a pretty high profile.

Having sat with the doominess of my previous post for the last several days, I’m happy to balance the scales a bit with some news of a lighter/brighter nature. Of course, light and heavy, light and dark, are not antagonistic as we often tend to think, but complementary. As lighting architect Rogier van der Heide has said, “There is no good lighting that is healthy and for our well-being without proper darkness.” We need a proper balance of both light and dark, both light and heavy, to develop and maintain a healthy psyche that perceives and relates to the world, and our experience in it, accurately.

Sitting in darkness, in heaviness, for the last few days has made me aware of light, and lightness, in my life that I’d been failing to notice previously, and that I probably would’ve continued to fail to notice otherwise. Having “the patience to wait till your mud settles and the water is clear”, as so eloquently stated in the Tao Te Ching, can be a challenging task in a society that tends to be quick to dismiss and/or “fix” anyone who’s less than relentlessly positive at all times. But as psychotherapist Ken Page recently wrote, “The places where we feel most broken often don’t need to be fixed. What they need is to be heard.” Sometimes, I hear the voices that speak from those places best in the dark.

Book review: “Zen in the Art of Photography”

Zen in the Art of Photography, by psychotherapist and photographer Robert Leverant, is a gracefully tight articulation of philosophy and process that reads like poetry. This little book is beautiful in both appearance and content. It even feels good in my hands. I’m neither a photographer nor an expert on Zen, but I enjoyed this book nonetheless, and I think that says something about the universal truths contained within.

Many of the insights offered about the process of creating a photograph echoed my own experience as a writer and poet. Leverant speaks of photography as “an art of waiting” and “an art of listening.” If the photographer listens well enough, if he has developed sufficient discipline, the photo takes itself. I’ve often told others that I feel as if my poems write themselves, but this only happens when I’m able to give them the time and space they need to emerge.

The processes and philosophy in this book may be specific to photography, but I believe that anyone engaged in creative activity who reads it can gain some valuable insights into the value of waiting, listening, and allowing art, whatever the chosen medium, to find its own path.

Iron Man Family Outing reviewed at Men’s Well-Being

Dr. Phil Tyson, a Manchester UK psychotherapist who specializes in working with men and men’s issues, recently posted his review of my book, Iron Man Family Outing, on his blog, Men’s Well-Being. He concluded his review by saying:

Rick’s work, if it is anything, is transformative. It holds out in optimism that by courageously facing the child we were, we can create a more rewarding future for the adult we want to become.

You can read his full post in its entirety at Men’s Well-Being.

In other “IMFO in the UK” news, another counselor based in the United Kingdom, John Kennett of Kent Counselling for Men, recently added Iron Man Family Outing to his Amazon UK Listmania list “Men, masculinity and maturity”, describing the book as a “raw and powerful means of accessing the inaccessible.”

In response to this recent UK news, a friend remarked to me via email, “I do think it is great that Iron Man is offered for sale in English pounds.” I have to agree.

Iron Man Family Outing – August Book of the Month at The Mindful Beat

I’m very pleased that my book, Iron Man Family Outing, has been selected as the Book of the Month for August 2009 on psychotherapist Rebecca Lincoln’s blog, The Mindful Beat. Rebecca features a book each month with a particular theme and this month’s theme is “Conscious Masculinity.”

In her comments about my book, Rebecca said:

What a treat to read such an authentic and heartfelt book. Through the use of poetry Belden tells his story of growing up with an abusive father. Belden allows the reader an insight into his heart and takes us along in his struggles to claim a conscious manhood. If you are looking for pretty poetry, this isn’t the book. This is raw, truthful, and captures both the darkness and the lightness of meeting one’s past. While Iron Man Family Outing may seem to be for men, it helped me as a woman have a better understanding of what men may be going through within themselves.

You can read her full post in its entirety at The Mindful Beat.

Iron Man Family Outing recommended at Kellevision

I was pleasantly surprised to find out recently that my book, Iron Man Family Outing, had been recommended in a post entitled “Books Written For and About Men” by therapist Kellen Von Houser on her blog, Kellevision. In her comments, she said:

Rick Belden is a fellow Austinite who has written a book, Iron Man Family Outing, of healing poetry about his own personal journey of growing up male in American society. His poetry is moving and poignant. His descriptions of his family, himself and his relationships strike a chord with everyone with whom I’ve shared them. I highly recommend this book.

You can read her full post in its entirety at Kellevision and also at Kellen’s blog at Intent.com.

Kellen’s recent post “Making Yourself a Target: Replicating the Scapegoat Role in Your Life – How to Stop Doing It” is yet another insightful entry in her excellent ongoing series on the the role of the scapegoat in dysfunctional family systems. This is a subject that deserves far more attention than it gets, in my opinion. I’m grateful to Kellen for shedding some light on the experience and the dynamics of the scapegoat role, and for providing practical, helpful information for those who need it.

Iron Man Family Outing enters top 10 poetry books by United States authors on Amazon.com

My book, Iron Man Family Outing, continues to receive positive reviews from readers and is now ranked number 10 in the top poetry books by United States authors on Amazon.com based on customer reviews.

Iron Man Family Outing – latest reader reviews

Here are a few highlights from recently posted reader reviews for Iron Man Family Outing at Amazon.com:

Jason Fierstein of Phoenix Men’s Counseling praised the book’s “use of metaphor” and said the “poems are very transformational, and really give a voice to the modern male experience – one which is frequently (and unfortunately) not discussed.”

Jack Kammer of The Center for Men and Boys in Social Policy commented on the isolation many men feel with their so-called “personal problems” and said the book “makes it unmistakably clear that any man who sometimes feels alienated from his best hopes and from his own, best, most cherished view of himself is most decidedly not alone.”

Life/Executive Coach Sean Casey LeClaire said that “Belden explores the shadow side of the male journey” and added that the book “comes at a wonderful time, as millions of men find themselves without work … the opportunity to face themselves with courage and decency, which Rick’s poems do, is most timely.”

The complete archive of reviews for the book is available at http://rickbelden.com/reviews.

Iron Man Family Outing enters top 20 poetry books on Amazon.com

My book, Iron Man Family Outing, continues to receive positive reviews from readers and is now ranked number 19 in the top poetry books on Amazon.com based on customer reviews.

Iron Man Family Outing moves into top 30 poetry books on Amazon.com

Recent reader reviews have pushed my book, Iron Man Family Outing, to number 27 in the top poetry books on Amazon.com based on customer reviews.

A few highlights from recently posted reviews:

Dr. Martin Srajek, Director of the Center for Men and Masculinity, wrote an expansive review that provides one of the most thorough, nuanced commentaries on the book to date.

Graeme Daniels of Self in Addiction wrote a detailed, perceptive review that included specific comments on some of the individual poems. Graeme also posted some additional review comments on the book and on specific poems in the reader reviews section of this blog.

Tom Golden of Crisis, Grief, and Healing emphasized that the book’s portrayal of “the masculine style of healing through creativity” provides useful insights for women as well as for men.

The complete archive of reviews for the book is available at http://rickbelden.com/reviews.

Latest Amazon Rankings

My book, Iron Man Family Outing, is now ranked number 33 in the top poetry books on Amazon.com based on customer reviews. It is ranked number 15 in the top poetry books by United States authors and number 40 in all books about father-son relationships, also based on customer reviews.

The complete archive of reader reviews for the book is available at http://rickbelden.com/reviews.