Exploring men's issues, masculine psychology, and recovery from abuse via poetry, essay, and art
What's my motivation?
When I first began my long journey of discovery, growth, and healing back in 1987, I did so with the kind assistance of other men who were a bit farther down the path than I was at the time. Without them, I couldn't even have taken the first step. Our paths split long ago, but I've never forgotten how important their presence was in my life at that time, nor will I ever lose my gratitude for their wisdom, witness, and assistance at a point in my life when I knew something had to change.
Now, nearly 30 years later, I hope I can do for others what those men did for me.
What's up with men?
Men need a lot of help they aren't getting these days. A lot of them feel lost, confused, left out, and frustrated. In observing my own work and the work of many other men through the years, I've seen some common factors that feed the unhappy, unsettling pattern of feeling lost in one's own life:
There's no single, easy answer that addresses all of this in one fell swoop, and there's no requirement that any man address any of it. If your life is working and you're happy with it and with yourself, then that's great. But if you recognize yourself in any of the above, and particularly if that recognition is accompanied by some feeling of pain, emptiness, or longing, it might be time to have a closer look.
What can be done?
In my experience, there are three things a man can do to begin to address the assortment of factors listed above:
There's also a fourth: Every man should know his own story and be able to tell it honestly and faithfully, if to no one else but himself. Moreover, he should be able to tell that story in his own words and in his own way, not someone else's, and feel it as his own with whatever emotional energy (grief, anger, regret, joy, love, etc) resides within him for it, not as a detached third party watching someone else's movie.
What's my objective?
I believe that it is our birthright as men to have full and unfettered access, to whatever extent suits us as individuals, to:
I also believe that all of these are within the reach of any man who's willing to move himself into some unfamiliar territory that will likely feel surprisingly like a forgotten homeland once the initial strangeness wears off.
How do I work?
Drawing on my own broad base of experience accumulated over many years, I can assist you using some or all of the following:
My approach is, above all, flexible, in-the-moment, and tailored to individual needs.
Who's the audience?
While I've described my services in terms of what they can do for men, my experience with responses to my writing tells me that women can benefit as well.
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Please feel free to reach out to me via the Contact page on this site if you have questions, need additional information, or would like to schedule a service offering.
I am not a licensed psychologist and do not offer or render psychology services. Information offered is not intended as, and is not, a substitute for direct professional medical or psychological care. Please consult your mental health care provider for attention if needed based on your individual condition and circumstances.
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